¡LIFE IS NOT A FAIRYTALE!

What you send out - comes back.
What you sow - you reap.
What you give - you get.
What you see in others - exists in you.
Life is an Echo.
It always gets back to you.

SO REMEMBER…

If you limit the love you give to just one or two,

It will eventually go stale.

If you learn to create love inside your heart

And silently give it to everyone you meet,

Love will grace every corner of your life.

ALSO REMEMBER TO…

v     Quit arguing with people about the same old foolishness!

Ø      Respect their position and keep it moving!

v     Quit telling people your secrets when you know they are not going to keep them!

Ø      And if you keep telling them, then quit getting mad when they tell your secrets!

v     Quit trying to pull people on your journey who don't want to travel with you!

Ø      Either they believe in you and value you or they don't!

v     Quit complaining about things you can't and won't change!

Ø      I am not working on being a model...so instead of complaining about the weight charts, negotiated with your doctor for a "comfortable weight for me." Forget the charts! Create your own "healthy weight!"

v     Quit gossiping about other people!

Ø      Minding our own business should be a full time job!

v     Quit blaming each other for things that in the big picture aren't going to matter 3 weeks from now!

Ø      Talk solutions... and then implement them!

v     Quit eating things you know are not good for you!

Ø      If you can't quit...eat smaller portions! (I know it is VERY hard)

v     Quit buying things when we know we can't afford them!

Ø      If you don't have self control, then quit going to the stores!

v     Quit charging things, especially when you don't NEED them!

v     Quit staying in unhealthy relationships!

Ø      It is not okay for people to verbally or physically abuse you! So quit lying to yourself!

Ø      -It is not okay to stay in the marriage for the children or for the sake of saying you are married, it doesn't work! Ask them and they will tell you that they really would prefer to see you happy and that the misery you and your spouse/partner are living with is affecting them!

v     Quit letting people rope you into the drama!

Ø      Start telling them you don't want to hear it!

v     -Quit spreading the drama!

v     Quit calling other relatives and telling them about your cousin or aunt! Go back to #5 - minding your own business should be enough to keep you busy!

v     Quit trying to change people! IT DOESN’T WORK!

v     Quit cussing people out when you know that they are just being the miserable and jealous people that they are!

v     Quit the job you hate!

v     -Start pursuing your passion

Ø      HINT: find the job that fuels your passion before you quit!

v     Quit volunteering for things that you aren't getting any personal fulfillment from anymore!

v     Quit volunteering for things and then failing to follow through with your commitment!

v     Quit listening to the naysayers!

v     Quit watching the depressing news if you are going to live in the doom and gloom of it all!

v     Quit making excuses about why you are where you are or why you can't do what you want to do!

v     Quit waiting on others to give you the answers...and start finding the answers in YOU!

Ø      If what you are doing isn't working for you...then quit it!

v     Quit settling and start making your dreams a reality!

v     Quit being afraid and START LIVING YOUR LIFE!

YOU MUST BE GAY BECAUSE...

Have you ever been told by anyone that you MUST be gay because of silly things they feel are gay traits? I've told some crazy things over the years, but my top 3 are:

1. You are TOO clean AND neat...NO STRAIGHT MAN KEEPS HIMSELF THAT WAY.

2. You look like a PRETTY boy (w/e that is).

3. Your name is Kishna and that's a girl's name.

SO WHAT THE OFF THE WALL THINGS OTHERS SAID TO YOU THAT MADE THEM FEEL YOU HAVE TO BE GAY?

¡NO WAY OUT!

I know that many think that I have such a weird way of thinking about how this bible, church AND god thing works. But I can’t sit here and tell other humans that GOD wants you to do this or that…how can I? I often wonder how we as humans sit here with our finite thinking and suggest that God is this way or another. I often tell people that God would NOT give you a choice when there isn’t one.

Think about it…We say that God wants us to be happy and safe RIGHT? Okay so in order for us to have that, we have to live a certain way to live with him in heaven. However if we don’t then we will go to hell…Now I don’t know about you, but I don’t know anyone that would out rightly say they want to go to hell…so what type of God gives man a choice when there really isn’t one to begin with? Did this God of man REALLY give us NO WAY OUT?

EVERYTHING IS EVERYTHING

"Everything Is Everything" is the fifth single by Lauryn Hill of the Fugees from her debut solo album The Miseducation of Lauryn Hill. It features John Legend, who was little known then, playing on the piano, but not as a featured artist. It reached #35 on the Billboard Hot 100 singles chart, #14 on the Hot R&B/Hip-Hop Singles & Tracks chart and #18 on the Rhythmic Top 40 chart. In the song, Lauryn Hill sings, while halfway through, she starts to rap, then switch back to singing, while repeatedly singing the title "Everything Is Everything". Though not as popular as "Doo Wop (That Thing)", it is considered as one of the greatest rap songs of all time, being voted #66 in About.com's Top 100 Rap Songs.

When I hear this song I reminded that there are SO many facts of life; and MANY of us don’t know to interpret it. We may hover between NOT caring AND taking life onto our shoulders when things in life are far MORE complex than either scenario. Still, not knowing how to take things from day to day is taking its toll on us. We look life over its head and NOT make eye contact with the things that are REALLY going on. Each time we do this, we disconnect ourselves from a large portion of our humanity when all we have to do is know that EVERYTHING IS EVERYTHING!

OLDIE, BUT GOODIE: ¿F&CK ME? (NOT EVEN ON A GOOD DAY)

THIS BLOG ENTRY SPEAKS FOR ITSELF & WHEN IT WAS WRITTEN A FEW YEARS AGO, I WAS GOING THROUGH MY FRUSTRATION WITH NOT BEING ABLE TO FIND A MAN I FELT I COULD SPEND MY LIFE WITH…SO THIS IS JUST LETTING THESE TYPE OF GAY MEN THAT COME WAY THAT THEY DON’T HAVE A CHANCE OF F&CKING ME…

THE INTERNET WHORE:

Ok, here he cums with his 10.5" D!CK telling me he is horny and how wants to F&CK me so badly...He is begging for my ASS, thinks he has what it takes to give me a good time. Here he goes again...Come and take a seat on daddy’s big dick and I am sure you'll want more. He went onto say that, 'it's thick and long, hard as stone' and he is going to take me to heaven...GUESS HE DOESN'T KNOW THAT I KNOW THAT HEAVEN IS OVER-RATED & WHAT HE SELLING I AIN'T BUYING...GUESS HE DOESN'T KNOW THAT I HAVE SEEN HIS TIRED OLD ASS AROUND TOWN & I WOULD HAVE TO BE REALLY, REALLY, REALLY DESPARATE TO GET WITH A PIECE OF SH!T LIKE HIM...The nerve of someone like him to think he can get a DIAMOND like me, how can I just give up on life like that? How can he ask that of me? DO U TH!NK HE CAN ¿F&CK ME?

THE DL:

So the other night I met this guy in cyber-space and he went on to tell me how wanted a man's touch so badly but he isn't out there @ all, he is DL. So I being the spawn of Satan that I am played up to notion that this man carried in his head. I too told him that I was DL which of course eased his soul and finally he could get what his ass been aching for. Funny thing to me is that I wondered how many men he told that he is DL? How many times can that line be used before one realizes that if one SISSY knows, it ain't that long till others find out. How can a man live in such fear of his sexuality that he lies to family who on some level knows but can't pin-point it. How can he splash up in a woman and know that he isn't on the up & up...DO U TH!NK HE CAN ¿F&CK ME? 

THE QUEEN:

I am all for equality and I praise the difference that make up the rainbow of this world. However I realized that I can't get with a guy that is a drag queen. Sadly I know that it's just an impersonation, but the men here take it into their personalities and become Ms. whoever they are portraying @ the time. Can you see me now with my legs up in the air getting busy with a QUEEN just piling D!CK on me, sweating HER ass off with face powder dripping on me? HELLS NO!...DO U TH!NK HE CAN ¿F&CK ME?

THE M&M's:

Ok now these are the ones that I find interesting, they find some poor girl who wants to believe that the man she is with wants her and her alone. Sadly she is the only woman he wants because he doesn't want any other...She can't slip in between his ASS with 10" D!CK waiting to tap his prostate unless she is using a dildo and most men aren't that open-minded. So they prowl the 'DARK FOREST' in search of prey that will devour them and give the pleasure they know won't come from a woman. They are all on the internet seek that DL man...that queen that still in so strange way make him feel like he isn't GAY anymore. So do you think that when this loser rolls my way seeking a piece of the action he will get it? Do you think that he has what it takes to ask me to help him see just how much he hates himself? Do you think he has what it takes to send a vibration my way? SO DO U TH!NK HE CAN ¿F&CK ME?

MR. THUG:

These men are so unbelievable; they hit me online with their slang and think it's cool to speak the way do. I certainly speak the Queen's English and I know that the way he speaks shows that he is ONLY perpetrating what the world say he should be all about. Funny how he thinks he is THE epitome of MAN all the while being told how to talk, dress, walk, eat, sleep…DAMN EVEN HOW TO F&CK! These men are made by the world and so to you I say… DO U TH!NK HE CAN ¿F&CK ME? 

THE EZ F&CK:

Ok here it comes; you meet him right, he comes all shy and innocent. He is all down for sex but doesn’t know if he wants to go there because he isn’t like that…NOW HERE I AM THINKING WTF? SHOULD I SAY IT? YES I SHOULD IT’S MY BLOG…UMMM SWEETS YOU PRETEND AS IF U DON’T HAVE SEX THAT OFTEN BUT YOUR UNTIGHT ASS BEGS TO DIFFER…I say its so funny to see the games he plays, pretending that my D!CK can’t get in and all the MOANING & GROANING…DAMN I AM GETTING HARD (YEAH RIGHT)…B!TCH PLEASE, you are an easy F&CK from the moment you sent out that S. O. S. for someone to ease the tension in your ass and that landed on my doorstep, you know and I know that you are an easy F&CK….I don’t think that I need ask but just in case… DO U TH!NK HE CAN ¿F&CK ME?

THE SELF-ABSORBED MAN:

So how many times have you met MR. PROFESSIONAL, MR. BUSINESS MEETING…MR. I ONLY 2 MINS BECAUSE I AM TOO BUSY TO BREATHE? I for one have met one too many of these men and the funny thing is that they are in a place where they’ve made it financially. However they’ve lost their humanity and don’t care about those around him that could use some help from time to time. I know it’s their money and shits but haven’t you been taught that money go, money come? These men are caught in their own physiological bullshit that they are transferring their own thoughts and feeling on others that they themselves would do if in that situation…NOW THE INTERESTING FOR ME HERE IS THAT I’VE BEEN F&CK BY THIS KINDA MAN BEFORE…OK A FEW TIMES BUT I CAN NOW SAY… DO U TH!NK HE CAN ¿F&CK ME? 

THE UNCONFIDENT MAN:

You’ve met him a thousand times before, he fears losing out on LOVE and when it happens he pretends as if it didn’t happen. He tries to hide the pain in his heart but you can see it in his eyes. He is taking a long sleepwalk through life; ignoring the voice in his head that tells him that he is fighting a losing battle…for he can’t be loved if he doesn’t have love for himself…HE CONSTANTLY WAITS FOR SOMEONE TO LOVE HIM…EVEN JUST A LITTLE! His lack of confidence makes him a cynic and his human condition prevents him from being truly at ease. His doors to self-love are bared…locked without any keys. His hope and fear are two sides of a coin much like Abel and Cane. Funny how in the end it adds up to the same…SO TO YOU I ASK… DO U TH!NK HE CAN ¿F&CK ME?

THE GAY MAN WAITING TO HAPPEN:

Did you see him? No? He is the one that calls me everything in the world that suppose to demean my sexuality…INTERESTING ENOUGH, HE IS ONLY DOING THAT BECAUSE HE WANTS TO F&CK ME! Now I on the other see right his SH!T, he tries his hardest to make me look the thing that the world despise; only it is he that despises himself…He is fighting his attraction to my MAN-LY-NESS, he can’t deal with the TRUTH…he WANTS me, he CRAVES me…he wants me F&CK him! So he goes home seek me on the internet, hiding behind his computer…talking DIRRRTY to me telling me about how his GIRL don’t satisfy him, how he L-O-N-G-S for my D!CK in his ASS…How he L-O-N-G-S for just one drop to grant his SALVATION…WITH THAT SAID, DO U TH!NK HE CAN ¿F&CK ME?

THE MAN-CHILD:

He is the combination of THE UNCONFIDENT MAN mixed with THE SELF ABSORB MAN that tries to make you AN E~Z F&CK. He is worst than the internet whore and pays so much attention to HIMSELF he might as well be a QUEEN…This man lives such a F&CKED UP existence, he is ill-bred, undeveloped…simply an idi-ass BOY of a MAN. But this mother fucker tries to test my MAN-HOOD, trying to step to someone like me…Thinking he on easy street and that he will get his…Better move along with that shit and take that bone to some other dog! He thinks he the man; what a fucking joke! He must really think me mad, how can he expect me to exist? He must think me mad, for how can HE expect me to exist when I must resist? Do you think he knows that the fascists in HIS life would have their way with me if it was in his power? He has a noose for my neck and he is trying to tighten it every hour…Trying to squeeze from me the fire of my illicit desire…NOW PLEASE BE HONEST WITH ME, I WANT THE TRUTH…DO U TH!NK HE CAN ¿F&CK ME?

¿DID YOU KNOW THAT WATER COULD BE GAY?

When I come across someone that says or does something ignorant when it comes to things they perceive to be true about sexuality, I try my HARDEST not to understand why that person possesses that particular mindset. After all an opinion is just like an asshole…EVERYONE has one! So about 2 weeks ago I decided to start taking water to work with me. Who didn’t ask me about the water bottle I was carrying didn’t ask because they didn’t want to. I was like why all the interest in a simple bottle? So I got to my desk and a lady came in and saw my bottle, she then asked, ‘what’s the bottle for?’ I told her that it was for water, she then said ‘oh.’ @ That point my co-worker asked her what that meant she said, ‘well nothing really, I just thought ONLY women do stuff like that.’ My co-worker was like huh? He then turned to me and asked if I heard her? I said yes, but I going to keep on walking and I am NOT going to look back. If I had told her what was really on my mind I would have told her to…

CHECK YOUR PERSPECTIVE because the narratives you tell yourself about what you think you know is WAAAYYY of base! Why berate yourself with accepted ignorance?
STOP THE COMPARISONS! There is NO one way to live in this world and if she wants me to act like, be like AND shape like a man she recognizes, she is looking @ the WRONG man! There is no comparing me to others, for that’s a tool used by those who lack imagination and have a profound disrespect for humanity.

FACE YOUR FEARS because WAAAYYY too many of you are held hostage by what you think I am. You’ve created all these imaginary monsters that you think are going to destroy the world and take something away from you…rather someone.

LEARN FOR YOURSELF and don’t try to justify your ignorance! Find a way to have a DIFFERENT relationship with your heart N’ mind because we all live on this planet fighting some battle so…

I LOVE YOU because you were NOT born, nor are of evil or wrongdoing. You were born into circumstances and situations, systems and societies with ideas and beliefs that created a reality for the people who brought you here...Anything that happened to you is not a reflection of your worth, only a commentary on how the world is ignorant to OUR beauty and value as human beings.

I find it SO sad that she and others like her have strayed from the basic sense of humanity. We say and do SO many things on a daily that no one seems to have the time to analyze and think things over…SO THE MORE THEY COME @ ME, THE MORE I SUSTAIN MY INNER CALM & STABILITY.

¡THE PLEASURE OF BEING STIMULATED!

Sexuality is life; sexuality and life go hand in hand. Life has wisely managed to create sexuality, eroticism, love and tenderness. As human beings we may live without love, tenderness, eroticism, but to do so is nearly impossible because they are all dimensions for the full experience of human sexuality. While we live key moments and change related to sexuality, love, mating and the erotic life, there is still much to be done to ensure that sexuality is no longer a source of discomfort, pain and frustration and become what it deserves for the great majority of human beings; source of growth and personal fulfillment. 

We understand the eroticism as the capacity that we humans live, experience, share and express sexual pleasure, is the ability to mobilize and activate our sexual arousal and emotions that accompany it in the context of an encounter that aims at the possibility of intimacy with another. We are a body made to feel, rich in sensory organs. We have a great ability sensory and sensual. Learn to feel, learn by practicing, experimenting, turning our senses and sense organs. We are able to feel sensations, enjoying the pleasure of being stimulation.

¿IF YOU WEREN'T GAY...

...HOW DO YOU THINK YOU WOULD FEEL ABOUT GAY PEOPLE?

LIFE IS SOOOOOOOOOOOOOO PRECIOUS!

I FINALLY laid my eyes on the movie Precious this passed weekend and I MUST say that is a MUST SEE! This movie touched me from start end and left NO emotion unturned in me. This was SO POWERFUL that he left all that went with me speechless. Normally after seeing a movie, as soon as we get in the car we discuss it...but there was just silence. This movie made me feel SO powerless and both Mo'Nique and  Gabourey Sidibe gave such AMAZING performances. My ONLY wish as I was leaving the theater is that EVERYONE that saw this movie would take the message from it and use it to turn themselves around.

In 1987, obese, illiterate, black 16-year-old Claireece "Precious" Jones lives in the New York City neighborhood of Harlem with her dysfunctional mother; she has been raped and impregnated twice by her father, Carl, and suffers long term physical, mental and sexual abuse from her unemployed mother, Mary. The family resides in a Section 8 tenement and subsists on welfare. Her first child, known only as "Mongo" (short for "Mongoloid"), has Down syndrome and is being cared for by Precious's grandmother.

Following the discovery of Precious' second pregnancy, she is suspended from school. Her junior high school principal arranges to have her attend an alternative school, which she hopes can help Precious change her life's direction.^[7] Precious finds a way out of her traumatic daily existence through imagination and fantasy. While she is being raped by her father, she looks at the ceiling and imagines herself in a music video shoot; in the video, she is the superstar and the focus of attention. While looking in photograph albums, she imagines the pictures talking to her. When she looks in the mirror, she sees a pretty, white, thin, blonde girl. In her mind there is another world, one in which she is loved and appreciated.

Inspired by her new teacher Miss Blu Rain, Precious begins learning to read. Precious meets sporadically with a social worker named Miss Weiss, who learns about incest in the household when Precious unintentionally implies it to her. She gives birth to her second child and names him Abdul. While at the hospital, she meets John McFadden, a nurse who shows kindness to her. After Mary deliberately drops three-day-old Abdul and hits Precious, Precious fights back long enough to get her son and flees her home, permanently. Shortly after leaving the house, in an attempt to get out of the cold outside, Precious breaks into her school classroom and is found there in the morning by Miss Rain. The teacher finds assistance for Precious and she begins raising her son in a half-way house while she continues academically.

Feeling dejected, Precious meets Miss Weiss at her office, after a short conversation when Miss Weiss leaves the room, Precious steals her case file. Precious recounts the details of the file to her fellow students and has a new lease on life. Her mother comes back into her life to inform Precious that her father has died of AIDS. Later, Precious finds out that she and her mother are both HIV positive, but that Abdul is not. Mary and Precious see each other for the last time in Miss Weiss' office, where Weiss questions Mary on her abuse of Precious, and uncovers specific traumas Precious encountered. The film ends with Precious still resolved to improve for herself and for her children. She severs ties with her mother and makes plans to complete a General Educational Development test.

THE JUST & THE UN~JUST...

Religious extremists, (whether the Taliban in the Islamic world or Christians the world over), don’t know the difference between JUST & UN~JUST! They don't care about democracy, respecting other people's right to live differently from them, the basic principles of morality AND the humans that live on this planet. To them we are just sheep that MUST do what they say and NEVER question them because to do so means you are questioning GOD himself. Because of these things, we can have people like PAT ROBERTSON say THE HAITIAN PEOPLE ARE CURSED & DESERVED THE EARTHQUAKE.

Now because Pat’s words are based on a book that dictates God’s will (which is invisible, inaudible, and entirely unverifiable btw), there seems to be NO reality check saying that his words are WICKED and  have an inhumane effect on the world. How can we sit here and accept such garbage? When something like this happens, it is to teach us that we should be addressing the REAL problems of the world and NOT doing the I told you so dance.

It SO OBVIOUS that the world is, quite literally, irrelevant to persons like this because they know that there is NO way to conclusively demonstrate what constitutes JUST & UN~JUST. There's no way to test the assertion that God punished Haiti with a devastating earthquake and to think otherwise shows a world that you are coward that’s hiding behind a bible in God’s name; and he seems VERY confused about the concept of JUST & UN~JUST.

His confusion is one found between what one is and what one does; and sinner is the generic term of what Haiti is in his mind. Therefore that means there were NO JUST people living in Haiti? I know here in the Bahamas most Christians share the sentiments of Pat Robertson…I suppose the difference to them is that there are MORE saints than sinners here so that’s why things like that don’t happen to us. But from what I remember about the bible, doesn’t it say that we all fall short of the perfection of God? So how could being a JUST nation not make us have a heart towards Haiti?

The OBVIOUS problem with paralleling the JUST & the UN~JUST is that most Christians have this belief that though the church is filled with sinners (adulterers, homosexuals and the like), as long as there is more of them they are safe. But I was taught in high school that ONE bad apple spoils the bunch, so there goes their theory. In my opinion being JUST is like saying certain cars go very fast, so if I am speeding it is expected!

Christians are NEVER above pretending to be more righteous than others and comments like Pat’s MORE than prove that! It is MORE than obvious that the reality is gone AND the brake lines of morality have been cut. I used to believe that ALL religions stamp us as ‘newborn’ with ‘their’ programming hoping to save us from ‘who knows what’ or, for some ‘God knows where’. As I write more entries like this, I am becoming more aware that the reason why SO many accept words from Pat et al is because they themselves struggle with flaws of their own AND know all too well their shortcomings…If ONLY we had the ‘Teach thyself first how to love, show kindness AND be aware of each other on this planet,’ all the ‘relic religions’ that give certain men the power to become the ‘religious spokesmen/salesmen’ for many would cease to exist…

KING OF SORROW

"King of Sorrow" is the second single from the English group Sade's fifth studio album, Lovers Rock (2000). The song was written by Sade Adu, Stuart Matthewman, Andrew Hale, Paul Spencer Denman and produced by Sade, Mike Pela.

The music video, directed by Sophie Muller, was filmed at and around Normandie Hotel in San Juan, Puerto Rico, one of the world's most famous examples of Art Deco architecture. It follows the dilemma of a single mother struggling to conciliate her children's needs with her dream of becoming a singer.

As MANY of us have such a keen awareness of world today because of what is going on in Haiti, I thought this song would be perfect. So few of us have a compassionate demeanor when it comes to the plight of others and I would hope that the earthquake in Haiti and the other social ills of the world would may you consider lending yourself to those who are in need. What else do we need to happen in this world before we adopt a responsive attitude to being responsible for each other?