My Fellow Ga(Y)te-keepers

Believe nothing, no matter where you read it, or who said it, no matter if I have said it, unless it agrees with your own reason and your own common sense. - Lord Buddha

Sunday 07 March 2010

¿CAN RELIGIOUS FOLK CLAIM IGNORANCE?


I am the type of man that can accept the choices I make and the things I believe; and contrary to popular belief, I do NOT believe that I am going to hell for being in LOVE with man. The MANY that are SO sure that they are right that they cannot conceive anything else happening to me. However, my question to them is what happens if you are wrong? What if your god does NOT punish me? Do you accept your mistake and say you were brain wash and claim religious ignorance? 

It would be REAL interesting for me to see them try doing away with the false programming that dictated to them what is right and wrong. Can you hear them say that they were VERY vulnerable and that the things they were told simply became embedded deeply influencing behavior throughout their lives? After spending SO much time hating on folks like me, how does their god give them what they are SO sure he isn’t going to give us? Wasn’t it they who allowed religion to make them believe they'll be rewarded with infinite bliss in the afterlife with NO way to prove whether or not this true? 

Though I don’t agree with their beliefs, I get why they wouldn’t/couldn’t question or examine them…But to go through life believing that their God must hate certain folks should be MORE than enough reason to do so. Moreover, how can such a belief be accepting when it is based on oppression and injustice? No matter how one looks @ it, claiming ignorance later and living in it now does NOT excuse what it has done to us that are “hell bound!” I know that I beat this dead horse religiously, but I can’t help but ask when are they going to see that religion just short-circuits their brains?



Saturday 06 March 2010

I NEED YOU





"I Need You" is a song performed by LeAnn Rimes, and is a single off her album I Need You. It peaked at #11 on the U.S. Billboard Hot 100 chart.

It was featured prominently in the soap opera Days of our Lives as Chloe Lane and Philip Kiriakis' song. The song is also the lead track on the CD titled "Jesus: Music From & Inspired by the Epic Mini Series" that aired on television in 1999.

Noel and I are two unique individual whose fate was pre-destined and as we walk this path together, I dedicate this song to him. This song touches me SO deeply that when I hear it, I feel like I am living off love...as if I am love. I knew from the moment I sent him the first communication that he was the ONE! And I did care if we lasted for a day, a year...5 years because I can’t go back to who I was before he came into my life. 

He motivates me spiritually, mentally, intellectually and emotionally. He is the MAN that is tailor-made for me. He is SO open minded, sensitive and secure in who he is. He understands the importance of being an individual as well as being a respective member of a couple; and his spirit and energy lights up my soul whenever I see him…guess it is NO surprise that I need him…I LOVE YOU BABY!



Friday 05 March 2010

OLDIE, BUT GOODIE: ¿MALE/GAY BONDING?



MALE BONDING is a term that is used in ethology, social science, and in general usage to describe patterns of friendship and/or cooperation in men. In this instance the male species form coalitions in which they mutually support each other. However, when one considers the context of a GAY relationship, MALE BONDING is then seen as the extreme of the two because of its SEXUAL nature. Nonetheless, is there any difference between ¿MALE/GAY BONDING?

I find that when men are drawn to one another they don’t know how to deal with that. So they think THIS MUST BE A GAY SITUATION! Therefore they then hide from LOVE which a QUALITY that is most prolific in human beings. So why do we run from it? WOMEN hold hands all the time in public, they compliment each other AND even go as far as to say that another is sexy. Yet we the MEN, the LEADERS within society run from the MUTUAL RESPECT & LOVE that really should show each other. Why can’t we men look each other in the eye with honesty? There's something about our psychological, spiritual, and physical makeup that cries out for intimacy with another. However we decided that this too close for comfort because that would make us GAY! However if we simply use our brains we would realize that EVERYONE come into their sexuality in different ways. Thus the concept of MALE/GAY BONDING shouldn’t be seen in the light in which it is.

FAR IT BE FOR ME TO CHANGE THE CONCEPT OF ANYTHING, MUCH LESS A TOPIC SUCH AS THIS. HOWEVER I FEEL THAT THE CONCEPT OF BONDING IS NOT BEING MET BECAUSE MEN ARE TOO AFRAID OF THEMSELVES TO ALLOW IT TO MATURE TO ITS NATURAL STATE. IT IS FUNNY THAT ALL OF US ARE EGOCENTRICS TO AN EXTENT, YET WHEN WE FOCUS ON OURSELVES, WE LOSE THE REAL PURPOSE OF HUMANITY. FRIENDSHIP IS IMPORTANT FOR ALL OF US. WITH MEN, IT’S A LITTLE DIFFERENT BECAUSE OF INSECURITY THAT FACTORS IN WHEN IT COMES TO ONE’S SEXUALITY & MANLINESS. BONDING IS BONDING BE HOMO/HETERO, MEN HAVE A STRONG NEED TO HAVE MALE FRIENDS. WHY SHOULDN’T A MAN HAVE @ LEAST ONE GOOD BUDDY WHO HE CAN RELATE TO? I DON’T FEEL THAT THERE IS A DIFFERENCE BETWEEN MALE/GAY BONDING. HOWEVER THE TROUBLE COMES IN WHEN MEN WANT TO DEVELOP & CULTIVATE DEEP MEANINGFUL RELATIONSHIPS WITH EACH OTHER & SOCIETY JUST WON’T ALLOW THEM TO DO SO. IT IS SAD THAT MANY OF MAY NEVER BE ABLE TO MOVE BEYOND THE SHALLOW CONCEPT OF BONDING BECAUSE THEY CAN’T SEEM TO FIND THE NEED NOT TO SEPARATE SEXUALITY FROM FRIENDSHIP. NOT ONLY DOES THIS MARGINALIZES MEN, IT KEEPS US FURTHER FROM ACHIEVING MALE EMPOWERMENT THAT UNLEASHES THE GREAT POTENTIAL THAT IS INNATE WITHIN ALL OF US.



Thursday 04 March 2010

MEN KNOW WHEN THEY’RE AROUSED…WOMEN NOT SO MUCH!


When it comes to sexual arousal, a woman's mind and body are less in sync than a man's, a review of research finds.

Men who reported feeling turned on tended to also sport an erection, while a matchup between the mind and body wasn't so consistent for women, according to the review published online Jan. 4 in the journal Archives of Sexual Behavior.

"We wanted to discover how closely people's subjective experience of sexual arousal mirrors their physiological genital response — and whether this differs between men and women," said researcher Meredith Chivers, a psychology professor at Queen's University in Canada.

Chivers and colleagues reviewed more than 130 studies published between 1969 and 2007 involving participants' arousal responses. In total, the review included more than 2,500 women and 1,900 men.
Men's subjective ratings of arousal were in agreement with their body's level of sexual arousal about 66 percent of the time, while women's were in line only about 26 percent of the time.

"The general pattern that I have seen in my laboratory is that women experience a genital response but do not report feeling sexually aroused," Chivers told LiveScience.

Overall, the findings suggest women and men have different experiences of sexual arousal.

"For men, their experience is strongly related to physiological arousal whereas for women it is less so," Chivers said.

Supporting the conclusions, a study reported in 2003 showed men's arousal clearly tracks sexual orientation, with gay men getting turned on by images of men, and straight guys by images of women. In contrast, that 2003 study showed both heterosexual and lesbian women were sexually aroused by male and female erotica, regardless of their sexual orientation.

Figuring out how measures of arousal (mental vs. physiological) differ between men and women will help scientists study human sexuality and understand the nature of these differences, Chivers said.




Wednesday 03 March 2010

WOMEN’S WORK…

The term ‘women’s work’ has come to have a derogatory connotation in recent years. Women’s work used to encompass ONLY domestic chores like cooking, cleaning, and raising children. However when a person is limited to only certain kinds of work in a society, there is a need to break free from that work in order to inhabit a place of choice. So with MOST women's decision to take a place in the working world, they pretty much made it a battle ground.

Even though most offices today are dominated in number by female employees I have yet to work in one where the women actually get along with each other, have each other’s best interest @ heart or even refrains from making some snide remark about a fellow female employee. Hence this battle is what I would like to call THE BIGGEST TITS N’ TIGHTEST PUSSY GAME! So when pussy walks in a pair of high heels onto ANY job, it seems as if it brings CONSTANT drama that could cause us that witness it to declare a state of emergency. From where I am standing, it seems like women ONLY exist to make each other miserable by pulling each other down! How does one deal with women that undermine each other? Moreover, why do women treat each other this way? Whatever happened to a woman feeling happy for another woman who looks INCREDIBLE after getting herself fix up? Why they underlying tension and the need to do away with a woman that is perceived as better than you? Is it the perceived shortage of men that is make them act like this? Are they SO busy competing for eligible male attention that they immediately feel hostile in some way toward another if they feel she may have the upper hand?

Most women will look at another woman and say, 'I can't stand her, she thinks she's all that.' When I hear such statements, they prove to me that they are merely emotional creatures. Meaning most logic and reason goes out the window…How logically is it carry hatred for another woman you don’t know OR you’ve never seen before? Everywhere I go, I see the same behavior in women; and @ my current job you have the “social butterflies” and the rest are basically the followers. On the surface, you would think that they must look up to the leaders. But when you pass by, if you look close, you'll see signs of dissension in the ranks.

Secretly, ALL women have their idea of what a complete woman is. I think they believe that the ultimate woman is someone who is appealing to men, has a great sense of style, is classy and has a devoted group of female admirers. So when they see one another possibly attaining even one of these attributes, we see the claws. The scheming and sabotaging PROVES what a former boss told me…His wish was that he could have an ALL MALE staff, but he knows that he would be seen as sexist so he couldn’t do it. I never gave his words that much thought, but as I progressed in my career, I started to wonder how can women break through the glass ceiling if they are ducking verbal blows from other women in cubicles, hallways and conference rooms?

I know it is a dog eat dog world out there, but women REALLY need to learn how to truly appreciate themselves for who they are and what makes them truly beautiful and feminine. Sabotaging each other because they feel that helping their female co-workers could jeopardize their own careers ONLY creates a chaotic working environment. I know that breaking this vicious cycle will be difficult when SO many have been competing with their sisters for their dad’s attention, but if a woman is going to run a company and be seen as an equal to a man, she has to prove that she can get her peers to support her COMPLETELY! Don’t they have enough obstacles already?



Tuesday 02 March 2010

FETISH ME THIS...

WHICH FETISH COULD YOU SEE YOURSELF GETTING INTO IF YOU HAD TO?

FISTING?
OR?

WATER SPORTS?



Monday 01 March 2010

I COULD NEVER BE GAY BECAUSE...


Have you ever heard a hetero person that they CANNOT be gay because of some silly reason? Reasons that suggest that we are gay because of our sexual demons or some other God awful reason? So this entry is about the things you heard heteros say when trying to explain why they can’t be gay.

My top 3 (and favorite) are:

God says it is wrong

Men saying the LOVE pussy TOO much

Women saying they LOVE dick TOO much

SO WHAT THE OFF THE WALL THINGS OTHERS SAID TO YOU THAT MADE THEM FEEL YOU HAVE TO BE GAY?



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